Definition of a Tribe
Seth Godin, the author of Tribes, shares that “Human beings can’t help it; we need to belong.” We belong by being a part of a tribe. According to Godin, “A tribe is a group of people connected to one another, connected to a leader, and connected to an idea.”
According to this definition, Jesus followers are one of my tribes. But, this is a BIG, diverse tribe! Discovering where our personality, strengths, and spiritual gifts are compatible with others in this tribe is challenging. I desire to belong and be accepted, but our gifting and calling may conflict.
Where Do You Belong?
I have often asked, “God, were do I belong and how do I connect with others while also fulfilling the assignment you have given me?”
I pursued connections with different groups within and outside the church. In true “tribe” fashion, my heart desired to connect with people with similar purpose and passion. For example, I joined a woman’s leadership group, believing we had the same vision for encouraging women, only to discover that our passions and values conflicted. Other similar experiences occurred in quick succession.
I struggled to find my tribe — and I began to lament and ask God: “ Do I belong anywhere? When I need people most, why is connecting so challenging?”
Interestingly enough, it was In this season of “not belonging” that I wrote Dining in the Desert with God. Hmmm, it appears God did have a purpose! In order to accomplish it, perhaps I needed to not belong for a season. Food for thought, but I digress!
The Qualities of a Supportive Tribe
As I pursued my passion for writing, I connected with a Christian writing group in Colorado called Writers on the Rock. My relationship with the group — now more than 800 members throughout the state— grew slowly as I intentionally got involved by attending meetings, making occasional presentation, and assuming some group responsibilities. Today, I am leading their online writers group that meets monthly. Upon finishing my latest book, I joined with other authors in the group to launch our new books together.
Hallelujah! I discovered a supportive tribe in Writers on the Rock. The group exhibits all the qualities of a successful tribe based on Godin’s definition.
We are connected as authors by our faith in Jesus Christ and in our passionate interest in sharing His truth through the written word. We are led by a man, David Rupert, and a team of other group leaders who eagerly encourage each of us to develop our skill and passion as writers. These leaders continually challenge us to accomplish more together than we can alone.
According to Lance Wallnau, you will also feel God’s favor and delight when you are with the right tribe. I definitely feel God’s delight when I lead writer’s meetings and effectively coach new writers.
If you are looking for your tribe, continue to pursue different relationships with intentionality and commitment. Don’t give up. Be faithful to where God directs you. The right tribe of people will emerge that encourages and supports you in your God-given purpose and current assignment.
